A Guide To Dealing With Teenagers
You remember what it was like to be a teenager, of course – tricky and awkward at the best of times, right? You probably thought when becoming a father that you would remember how you felt at that age, and it would allow you to be better equipped when your own kids came along – but it’s not always the case.
There is no set method in how to deal with a teenager, because every person is different – all you can do is analyze the behavior of your teens based on how well you know them, and strategize ways best suited for their personalities.
Here are a few prompts on how best to approach your own teenager.
Don’t Be Quick to Judge
It might seem like your teenager’s bad attitude and irritability are just aspects of being a “typical teenager” and shutting you out as a parent. It’s possible, however, that there may be an underlying reason for your teenager acting this way, and it could be a mental health problem.
The majority of people are not willing to speak openly about their mental health, as it can be a difficult and upsetting subject, and teenagers may be even less likely to open up. It’s important not to chastise your child for bad behavior if you’re not completely sure it’s not a mental health issue. The last thing you want is for your teenager to feel as though they have done something wrong with feeling depressed.
Talking is crucial in this situation. There are also professional clinics available, such as edentreatment.com, who offer a compassionate environment for your teenager, should they be struggling with this problem.
Be a Parent – But Be a Friend, Too
It may sound contradictory, but being a strict and unapproachable parent figure may serve to push your teenager in the opposite direction. Obviously, you need to lay some ground rules, be strict when strictness is necessary, and don’t let your teenager walk all over you, but there’s no reason you can’t be cool Dad, too.
Teenagers best respond to a parent they know they can have a laugh with, and talk about things with. By forming a close bond with your teenager on a level of mutual respect, they are more likely to listen to you when you do have to say NO.
If you’re only ever the serious guy who constantly shouts about rules and order, your teenager is more likely to rebel.
Be Aware and Vigilant
Teenage years come with a change in behavior, and this could mean your kid suddenly going out more, spending more time with their bedroom door closed, or becoming more romantically involved with people. It’s crucial to always respect your teenager’s privacy, but you also need to be aware of what’s going on. Don’t pry, but also ask for as much information as they’re willing to give. This could be as simple as asking them what time they expect to be home, so you know something is wrong if they’re not.