It is commonly thought that moms are better than dads. The notion that the men should be the bread earners, and the moms should stay at home looking after the children still stands. Although it isn’t as strict as it was 40-50 years ago. It is presumed that the mother has more to do with the upbringing of the child, especially as a lot of moms are now single moms. But dad’s, before you begin raging we know this isn’t true. How many of you reading this have a daddy’s little girl? Or a boy who idolises you and can’t wait to see you when you come through the door? Exactly! But how do the roles of a mother and father differ. This article will explore a few.
At the start of the birth, the roles are pretty much equal. Mother’s obviously have the longer maternity leave, so they do get to bond more with the child. Both however, will feed, wash, clothe, and play with the child equally. The time dads loose during the day with work, they more than make up for on the evening. If the mom is breastfeeding, it is easier for them to bond. However milk can be pumped from the breast and then bottle fed to the baby so the same bonding experience is shared.
As they progress through the toddler into being a young child, this is where you’ll notice a slight difference in parenting. By now your child will have a firm favourite, whether it be clingy to mom’s leg all day, or quietly playing until dad comes home. It is usually seen that the dad will take a more relaxed angle to parenting. Whereas the mother will be stricter on things such as being naughty, eating properly etc. If it’s a girl, the dads tend to be a lot more protective, and focus on safety and wellbeing. Whereas moms will focus on doing girly things such as doing their hair, dressing them up, and building friendships with other moms for playdates. This is then reversed if the child is a boy. The dad will focus on being rough and tough, playing sports and teaching them how to be a man.
But as so many people are now single parents, and it being up to a divorce lawyer and court who gets custody, it has become more common women to learn to raise a boy without the influence of a father. And men to try and raise a girl without the influence of a mother. Both do an amazing job, as in that moment parental instincts kick in, and either sides can do exactly what the other would do to raise the child correctly. Although some influence is lost, both parties make up for it.
So, it’s clear to see both mothers and fathers do an excellent job of parenting. They both have their own roles through all stages of a child growing up. Whether you’re a single parent or not, you’re both doing amazing.